I commented on a fellow blogger’s post today with the phrase “Methinks you are having too much fun”, to which she replied “No such thing as too much fun.”
And as soon as I read her reply and sent back another response, I realised that I ‘was’ what I was responding with.
I know……that makes no sense. Â I’ll try to make it clearer.
I replied to her reply with “I know!!! But people always want to stop other people from having fun. Why is that?” And as I was writing this to her I realised that my original comment was a typical, subtle way of saying that she should stop having fun. Unintentionally, I was a ‘poo poo head'(her term for fun killer)
Why is that?
What is it in the nature of human beings that insists that we chastise and criticise others for having fun and enjoyment in their lives? Are the majority of us so bloody miserable that we can’t stand to see others making the most of their time and opportunities?
I know that when I sent my original comment I was doing it jokingly, but I could so easily be read as a criticism. I might be more than a little envious of the photography fun that she is having, but I’d never want her to stop having fun. I know for damned sure that I’d be mightily annoyed with anyone who tried to suggest that I stop doing the things that I’m doing which make my world fun and happy. I want to be part of the fun that she is having. I want to lean what she is learning. I also want to have my own fun.
It has been suggested by certain folks who shall remain nameless, that I should spend more time at home doing ‘home’ stuff. I did that. I did that for years. And where did it get me? I had the perfect schedule. I had the tidy home. I had the manicured lawns. I had the empty washing and ironing baskets. I had the job…..the child……the husband. I still ended up as a divorce statistic and I still maintained the regime and I did ok.
But now………..
Now I am exploring my city and my state. Soon I will begin exploring other states. I am meeting incredible people who are creating opportunities for me to grow as a person. My 2016 has been awesome and I’ve got so much coming up I can hardly believe it. Since June I have been away to Portarlington, Nelson Bay and Hopetoun. This weekend I head off on a 4WD trip with a mate and his 4WD club. In a fortnight I’m off to Beechworth. In two months I head off on my own to Tasmania for a week.
I am having FUN.
There is still food in the fridge and pantry, the washing gets done, I clean the house when it needs it, I mow the lawns when they need it, I walk my dogs, I play in my garden when I feel the urge to do it, I see my son when he’s home, I go to work and I pay my bills. I have not shirked any of the responsibilities…… I merely attend to them when they need attending rather than on a strict schedule.
And there is NOTHING wrong with that.
The longer I live, the more I realise that I need to live.
Nobody is going to suffer if I don’t clean my bathroom every week on a Friday morning before 10am. The world will not stop turning if I haven’t done the grocery shopping on Wednesday afternoon. The neighbours will not be offended by the occasional weed in the garden.
I, however, will stagnate and age beyond my years if I do not continue the journey I have begun. I understand the importance of pacing myself so that I don’t burn out, but I cannot revert to my previous ways. I deserve to have fun. Everyone deserves to have fun. And everyone deserves the right to enjoy that fun without being scorned for it.
There is no such thing as having too much fun. Having fun means that you are alive………..and, by god, that’s a hell of a lot better than the alternative.